The battle to become one

The battle to become one

Two opposing perspectives vs. one shared goal. Welcome to marriage! This was a snippet of a conversation between myself and my husband, and based on me telling you that I am more of a dreamer whereas he is more of a realist, you can easily tell who said what as shared above. I smiled as I recalled the conversation while writing those words, as it perfectly sums up the journey of navigating married life...

I’ll pay for your debt

I’ll pay for your debt

I felt so embarrassed to be telling my husband (boyfriend at the time) that I was in debt... Let's be real, there are certain conversations that we'd just rather not have for fear of exposing our vulnerabilities and ruining the perception that this person has of us. The newness of a relationship is like buying a new car - we notice all the beautiful things about it and we can't wait to take to the road! But as soon as a warning light comes on that signals an issue, then we have to find out what is causing the problem. This is usually a hidden issue, and one that we wouldn't have seen just by looking at the car...

Less scrolling, more talking

Less scrolling, more talking

Your post was shared 30 minutes ago but you only have 4 likes... you just wanted to "check" your feed, but then an hour flies by... you're settling down for the night, and your screen is getting more attention than your spouse... I could go on! Lockdown life has catapulted us into a virtual reality, where we are relying on our screens to work from home, socialise and just to generally stay connected...

When the dishes can wait

When the dishes can wait

I read a quote on social media this week that has stuck with me since. It simply said, "You can have it all, just not at the same time". In the caption, the creator of the post shared how she had returned home after a busy day to find a messy kitchen. She also was yet to spend time with her husband due to the demands of the day. In that moment she had two choices - either clean the kitchen or spend quality time with her husband...