Before beginning my journey as a trainee therapist and seeing clients, the only marriage issues that I was openly presented with was that of my parents, a few friends, and my very own relationship. Every now and then I would see the glimmer of personal struggles shared by couples around me, but as most of us do, our masks are quickly readjusted to try our best to maintain public perception...
Two opposing perspectives vs. one shared goal. Welcome to marriage! This was a snippet of a conversation between myself and my husband, and based on me telling you that I am more of a dreamer whereas he is more of a realist, you can easily tell who said what as shared above. I smiled as I recalled the conversation while writing those words, as it perfectly sums up the journey of navigating married life...
I remember how just seeing your smile would fill me with butterflies, and every time you saw me your eyes lit up like stars! What happened to those two people who were so wrapped up in each other's company? What happened to those two people who were CERTAIN that this must be love? What happened to us...?
"Make sure you don't have to depend on no man!" "As a man, it is my duty to provide for my family" "Finance is one of the top reasons why couples decide to divorce"... With so many conflicting messages thrown at us throughout life, is it any wonder that so many of us struggle to be financially compatible with our spouse when we get married?...
Is your spouse currently meeting your sexual needs, and do you believe that you are meeting theirs? Have you had a conversation about this to confirm that both of you are content with the way your sex life is right now? I thought I may as well jump straight in for this one, as our sexpectations (sexual expectations) can make or break, or even just put a huge strain on our sexual connection within marriage...
Really Married 