My money vs our money

My money vs our money

"Make sure you don't have to depend on no man!" "As a man, it is my duty to provide for my family" "Finance is one of the top reasons why couples decide to divorce"... With so many conflicting messages thrown at us throughout life, is it any wonder that so many of us struggle to be financially compatible with our spouse when we get married?...

How to be vulnerable

How to be vulnerable

Vulnerability... it is both something that many of us are fearful of, while also being something that is crucial to our overall wellbeing. While listening to a TED Talk by vulnerability researcher and story teller, Brené Brown, it's easy to understand why this particular talk has attracted over 50 million views since it was shared 10 years ago...

I’ll pay for your debt

I’ll pay for your debt

I felt so embarrassed to be telling my husband (boyfriend at the time) that I was in debt... Let's be real, there are certain conversations that we'd just rather not have for fear of exposing our vulnerabilities and ruining the perception that this person has of us. The newness of a relationship is like buying a new car - we notice all the beautiful things about it and we can't wait to take to the road! But as soon as a warning light comes on that signals an issue, then we have to find out what is causing the problem. This is usually a hidden issue, and one that we wouldn't have seen just by looking at the car...

When a well-paid job isn’t enough

When a well-paid job isn’t enough

"We would like to invite you to attend an interview..." As grateful as I was to receive that email, I can't say that I was entirely happy to be in this all too familiar position again. I had reached a point where interviews no longer made me nervous, as I'd been to enough of them to grow confident in the way I presented myself. I appreciated my personal growth, but this was outweighed by the fact that I just couldn't seem to catch a break...