If there is anything I have learned from my marriage so far, it is that affirmation is key. You may be one of those people who have fallen into that all too common trap in your marriage where you expect your spouse to just know that you love them. After all, you still come home to them every night, right? But even housemates who don't have a close relationship with each other can return home to the same building each day...
I felt so embarrassed to be telling my husband (boyfriend at the time) that I was in debt... Let's be real, there are certain conversations that we'd just rather not have for fear of exposing our vulnerabilities and ruining the perception that this person has of us. The newness of a relationship is like buying a new car - we notice all the beautiful things about it and we can't wait to take to the road! But as soon as a warning light comes on that signals an issue, then we have to find out what is causing the problem. This is usually a hidden issue, and one that we wouldn't have seen just by looking at the car...
"Would you feel comfortable if your spouse had a best friend of the opposite sex?" This question is guaranteed to fire up a heated discussion from both sides! I've seen the "not my man!" responses clashing against the "she was here before you" clap-backs. This topic is contentious for a reason, and hopefully this post will help you to dig a little deeper into how you allow your friends to fit into the bigger picture of your marriage...
Your post was shared 30 minutes ago but you only have 4 likes... you just wanted to "check" your feed, but then an hour flies by... you're settling down for the night, and your screen is getting more attention than your spouse... I could go on! Lockdown life has catapulted us into a virtual reality, where we are relying on our screens to work from home, socialise and just to generally stay connected...
I read a quote on social media this week that has stuck with me since. It simply said, "You can have it all, just not at the same time". In the caption, the creator of the post shared how she had returned home after a busy day to find a messy kitchen. She also was yet to spend time with her husband due to the demands of the day. In that moment she had two choices - either clean the kitchen or spend quality time with her husband...
