When the dishes can wait

When the dishes can wait

I read a quote on social media this week that has stuck with me since. It simply said, "You can have it all, just not at the same time". In the caption, the creator of the post shared how she had returned home after a busy day to find a messy kitchen. She also was yet to spend time with her husband due to the demands of the day. In that moment she had two choices - either clean the kitchen or spend quality time with her husband...

How to have shame-free sex

How to have shame-free sex

Imagine needing to give yourself a pep talk to initiate sex... I'm just keeping it real! At least for me as a Christian woman, I've just had this mental block towards certain aspects of sex that I'm now able to deal with more intentionally. Honestly? If I had more insight and guidance to begin with, then I wouldn't need to dig up the years of twisted expectations and deal with the shame-inducing mentality that often comes with just mentioning the topic of sex let alone experiencing it...

Let me clean your mess

Let me clean your mess

I was heavily pregnant, and dealing with the random episodes of sickness that would hit during the night. On each occasion, even though my husband was often enjoying his sleep, he would hear me get up to rush (speed waddle) to the bathroom and follow behind me to make sure I was okay. On one particular night, the sickness hit before I could reach the toilet...

Stay home, stay married…

Stay home, stay married…

So... married life in lockdown! It's been a couple of months I think - in all honesty I've lost track of the days let alone weeks during this COVID-19 pandemic. All I know is that this crisis has thrown our lives into something that is completely different to anything we've ever known. Each day we are reminded to Stay Home, Save Lives, Protect the NHS and rightly so! But in all of this, where does that leave your marriage?

I don’t feel like loving you right now

I don’t feel like loving you right now

Can we just be real for a minute? In fact, can we just take that refreshing, candid approach and make it the theme of this blog? It's okay not to be okay. It's okay to finally speak your mind and take a moment to figure out what you need from and for your marriage. It's okay to want more than your current cycle of being that person that holds it together for their family - plastering on a weary smile to everyone outside your home when in reality you're hanging on to your wellbeing by a thread. It's okay to admit when you're struggling. It's okay to seek help from an appropriate source external to your marriage, i.e. counselling. The above is most definitely a note to self...