I’ll pay for your debt

I’ll pay for your debt

I felt so embarrassed to be telling my husband (boyfriend at the time) that I was in debt... Let's be real, there are certain conversations that we'd just rather not have for fear of exposing our vulnerabilities and ruining the perception that this person has of us. The newness of a relationship is like buying a new car - we notice all the beautiful things about it and we can't wait to take to the road! But as soon as a warning light comes on that signals an issue, then we have to find out what is causing the problem. This is usually a hidden issue, and one that we wouldn't have seen just by looking at the car...

Friends with boundaries

Friends with boundaries

"Would you feel comfortable if your spouse had a best friend of the opposite sex?" This question is guaranteed to fire up a heated discussion from both sides! I've seen the "not my man!" responses clashing against the "she was here before you" clap-backs. This topic is contentious for a reason, and hopefully this post will help you to dig a little deeper into how you allow your friends to fit into the bigger picture of your marriage...

Less scrolling, more talking

Less scrolling, more talking

Your post was shared 30 minutes ago but you only have 4 likes... you just wanted to "check" your feed, but then an hour flies by... you're settling down for the night, and your screen is getting more attention than your spouse... I could go on! Lockdown life has catapulted us into a virtual reality, where we are relying on our screens to work from home, socialise and just to generally stay connected...

5 ways to love your in-laws

5 ways to love your in-laws

"You must have a lot of patience" responded my friend when I shared that myself, my husband and our baby daughter had moved in with my in-laws. I don't know if it's the perception that society has created, or a whole lot of negative experiences encountered by married couples, but in-laws don't have the best reputation...

I just called to say I’m sorry…

I just called to say I’m sorry…

"I apologise, I thought you knew. I'm so sorry if you feel that way..." That single text from my husband diffused my frustration and made room for me to instead focus on the reason that this particular situation had been an emotional trigger. When he returned home, we were able to sit and calmly talk through how I was feeling, and both of us left that conversation feeling equally heard and appreciated...